Thinking out loud

  If the link doesn't work, listen to Jacques Brel VESOUL     Perfection is nowhere to be seen in human relationships, and in this case it means that sometimes you don't get exactly what you want, and neither does your partner. A good compromise would mean that you each get at least a part of what you want. A bad one means, like Brel you get nothing and the other one gets what they want (he wanted to see her sister but  they saw her mum). I suppose there are the disastrous compromises where no one get what they want, but I suspect those may be so rare we'll call them an exception.      My whole job is reaching compromises in order for things to  work out for all stakeholders. I'm not the best at it but decent enough. I wish I was at least half as good at it in my own relationship. I'm not really much the one for conflict, even if I'm probably not a people pleaser, but at home at least I more often than not  choose the path of least resistance...

  If the link doesn't work, listen to Bill Withers -Lean on me           Last weekend I've met up with some friends I've known for half my life at this point. Life, children, work have kept us busy so we probably haven't seen each other in a bit over 2 years. The hugs I got (and gave ) where epic, and not due to static electricity.  It got me thinking about how many types of hugs there are and how they make you feel: The weird smelling aunt you see once a year at a family function The goodbye hug to a coworker who taught you alot but is now leaving the company The hug from your wife's third cousin's wife when she comes to your wedding and you never saw her before in your life Your partner's hug when you've been away for a long time and you see each other at the airport. The hug you give your mother when your father has passed away.  The hug from the guy with the "Free hugs" placard in the photo.    All of those and many more are pub...

  If the link doesn't work, listen to Bill Withers -Lean on me           Last weekend I've met up with some friends I've known for half my life at this point. Life, children, work have kept us busy so we probably haven't seen each other in a bit over 2 years. The hugs I got (and gave ) where epic, and not due to static electricity.  It got me thinking about how many types of hugs there are and how they make you feel: The weird smelling aunt you see once a year at a family function The goodbye hug to a coworker who taught you alot but is now leaving the company The hug from your wife's third cousin's wife when she comes to your wedding and you never saw her before in your life Your partner's hug when you've been away for a long time and you see each other at the airport. The hug you give your mother when your father has passed away.  The hug from the guy with the "Free hugs" placard in the photo.    All of those and many more are pub...

  If the link above should quit working, listen to Tears in heaven by Eric Clapton      On Sunday, the handle on my kitchen door broke. Being a shitty Chinese door with non-standard size, I had to order it and it arrived Tuesday. Spent 3 hours on Tuesday and 1,5 hours on Wednesday to fit the damn thing, buy a chisel, hack out a bigger hole for it and clear the way for it to close, but I got it done. If my father could have been here, he would've probably done it in less than an hour. Unfortunately, he passed a way ten and a half years from pancreatic cancer.     My father worked with wood all his life. He was a pattern maker by trade, working with wood , epoxy and polyesteric resins, fibreglass and all manner of solvent based paints and glues. He also made probably hundreds of doors, windows, staircases, and pieces of furniture and fitted hundreds of locks to doors and windows (I watched him myself fit about a dozen over the years). Not only that, but ...

  If the link above should quit working, listen to Tears in heaven by Eric Clapton      On Sunday, the handle on my kitchen door broke. Being a shitty Chinese door with non-standard size, I had to order it and it arrived Tuesday. Spent 3 hours on Tuesday and 1,5 hours on Wednesday to fit the damn thing, buy a chisel, hack out a bigger hole for it and clear the way for it to close, but I got it done. If my father could have been here, he would've probably done it in less than an hour. Unfortunately, he passed a way ten and a half years from pancreatic cancer.     My father worked with wood all his life. He was a pattern maker by trade, working with wood , epoxy and polyesteric resins, fibreglass and all manner of solvent based paints and glues. He also made probably hundreds of doors, windows, staircases, furniture, fitted hundreds of locks to doors and windows (I watched him myself fit about a dozen over the years). Not only that, but he had all the to...

      If link doesn't work, listen to the Backstreet Boys -Show me the meaning of being lonely Another Reddit inspired post, this one is about people asking : I am feeling lonely, what should I do?  Most answers on there fall into one of 2 categories: 1) The new age hippies with you must learn to love yourself, your happiness doesn't depend on others etc 2) Normal people that suggest dating (live or online ), self-improvement in order to be more attractive etc. If you've read a few of my posts on here,  you'll already know where I stand. But just to give some insight why I think most humans are social beings by design and not meant to live alone, here are a few facts: 1)Oldest healed bone fractures found on a  human skeleton date back 130 000 years. This means somebody took care of that poor bastard while his bones healed, otherwise, not being able to get food , water, shelter he would have died before they healed 2) For thousands of years, solitude was a f...

      If link doesn't work, listen to the Backstreet Boys -Show me the meaning of being lonely Another Reddit inspired post, this one is about people asking : I am feeling lonely, what should I do?  Most answers on there fall into one of 2 categories: 1) The new age hippies with you must learn to love yourself, your happiness doesn't depend on others etc 2) Normal people that suggest dating (live or online ), self-improvement in order to be more attractive etc. If you've read a few of my posts on here,  you'll already know where I stand. But just to give some insight why I think most humans are social beings by design and not meant to live alone, here are a few facts: 1)Oldest healed bone fractures found on a  human skeleton date back 130 000 years. This means somebody took care of that poor bastard while his bones healed, otherwise, not being able to get food , water, shelter he would have died before they healed 2) For thousands of years, solitude was a f...