Thinking out loud

 In case the youtube link dies, listen to Carelss Whisper-George Michael  It'a revisit of this earlier post that was prompted by reading  is Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by  Willard F. Harley Jr. and the the chapter on the most important emotional needs "Conversation  Unlike sex, conversation is not a need that can be met exclusively in marriage. Our need for conversation can be ethically met by almost anyone. B ut if it is one of your most important emotional needs, whoever meets it best will deposit so many love units, you may fall in love with that person. So if it's your need, be sure that your spouse is the one who meets it the best and most often. Men andwomen don't have too much difficulty talking to each other during courtship. That's a time of information gathering for both partners. Both are highly motivated to discover each other's likes and dislikes, personal background, current interests, and plans for the future. But after...

  If the youtube link fails, listen to Pink-Just give me a reason I suppose this is a folow up of this post https://howtobeinadultrelationships.blogspot.com/2025/12/elements-of-psychology-should-be-taught.html Even if you know a bit about psichology, that onne usualy focuses on a single personn annd ther traits annd problems in relation with the enviroment aorund them, not necesarily about how people behave when in a romantc relationship (or an amicable one for that). Imagine how cool would be to teach teenagers that in highschool? But we don't (or at least not anuwhere that  know of we don't). So how do we learn about how to behave in a relationship? Obvously, for those lucky enough to have them, from watching our parents. Sometimes I get scared myself on how much I mirror my father's vehaviour towards my mother , probaby because I'm looking at the "bad habits" but now that I actively svan it, I supose I'm also replicatinng some of the good ones.      On ...