Intimate conversations and what they (may) lead to





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It'a revisit of this earlier post that was prompted by reading is Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley Jr. and the the chapter on the most important emotional needs


"Conversation 

Unlike sex, conversation is not a need that can be met exclusively in marriage. Our need for conversation can be ethically met by almost anyone. But if it is one of your most important emotional needs, whoever meets it best will deposit so many love units, you may fall in love with that person. So if it's your need, be sure that your spouse is the one who meets it the best and most often. Men andwomen don't have too much difficulty talking to each other during courtship. That's a time of information gathering for both partners. Both are highly motivated to discover each other's likes and dislikes, personal background, current interests, and plans for the future. But after marriage many women find that the man who would spend hours talking to her on the telephone, now seems to have lost all interest in talking to her and spends his spare time watching television or reading. If your need for conversation was fulfilled during courtship, you expect it to be met after marriage. If you see conversation as a practical necessity, primarily as a means to an end, you probably don't have much of a need for it. But if you have a craving just to talk to someone, if you pick up the telephone just because you feel like talking, if you enjoy conversation in its own right, consider conversation to be one of your most important emotional needs.


We have a need to have intimate conversations, ones where you share information or get an opinion on stuff you wouldn't talk about most people (feeling, reactions, lovelife). 

    At least twice i've fallen in love with girls that did that with me. Apparently, they don't necesarily do that only with people they would like to get involved romantically (nobody told me that beforehand). Second tme around, after the romantic part was over, she still loved to have intimate conversations with me. And so did I in regards to her. 



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