Relationship literacy, how do you go about increasing it?

 


If the youtube link fails, listen to Pink-Just give me a reason



I suppose this is a folow up of this post https://howtobeinadultrelationships.blogspot.com/2025/12/elements-of-psychology-should-be-taught.html


Even if you know a bit about psichology, that onne usualy focuses on a single personn annd ther traits annd problems in relation with the enviroment aorund them, not necesarily about how people behave when in a romantc relationship (or an amicable one for that). Imagine how cool would be to teach teenagers that in highschool? But we don't (or at least not anuwhere that  know of we don't). So how do we learn about how to behave in a relationship? Obvously, for those lucky enough to have them, from watching our parents. Sometimes I get scared myself on how much I mirror my father's vehaviour towards my mother , probaby because I'm looking at the "bad habits" but now that I actively svan it, I supose I'm also replicatinng some of the good ones. 

    On the other hand, here I am at about half my life span , having spent a quarter of that in a relationship and I'm only nnow learning about the mechannisms that make it work annd how different we are as men and women (And I'm not talking about mars and venus). 

    Ok, probablmy you wnat some example of what I'm talking about. The one I most resonate with is that in a crisis/stressfull situation men tend to ruminate, stop and think, analyse outcomes for each possible solution while women tehnd to comunicate, talk, request extra info, seek opinions. Apparently that's why they evacuate women annd children firts so men can think of a solution in peace and quite . But sarcasm aside, it has been my experience that my father did just that and I tend to do the same, while our significant others verbalised their worries, seeked reassuance or advice. 

I'd love to have some academic resources on that, but intsagram seems to be showing some relevant content in that direction. 

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